For the past five years, I’ve been trying to stay with a doctor who has lost his desire to help me with my problems, which are severe and interfere with my life. Because he can’t find a cause or a solution, and because my symptoms have not exhibited themselves during my appointments, he says they are a result of anxiety. I like the doctor personally. I’ve been seeing him for at least fifteen years. But I know he can no longer treat me if he believes what he says. I’ve tried to talk with him about it, but his mind is closed. I feel he’s just waiting for me to die.
This is also my opinion:
After talking with my friends, I think this is especially a problem with the elderly. When you get to be as old as I am, many doctors just feel that your problems are due to ‘old age’ and they either don’t want to, or think they can’t, do anything about them. I’ve noticed a distinct change in my own doctor’s attitude toward me since I’ve aged. I HAVE questioned whether it’s him, or the health care system.
Recently, with great regret, I decided to leave my present doctor and seek another one who cares about the elderly and would work with me on my problems. But I’m running into walls. I can’t get an appointment with any of the doctors I’ve chosen. One doctor’s office person told me he couldn’t see me because he was in the same practice as my other doctor and that would be problematic. Another person from that same office told me he wasn’t taking new patients.
That’s the response I usually get, “He/she isn’t taking new patients.” Many of the doctors are fairly young. One I really would like to see, and am not allowed to, is 43 years old. When I expressed my puzzlement about this to a person on the phone, she told me that doctors have a quota of medicare patients they’ll take. One office which has 5 or 6 doctors has only one doctor available to take Medicare patients. Due to his background information and Healthgrade rating, I’m not interested in him as my primary physician.
It’s not like I’m a charity case. In addition to Medicare, I have secondary insurance. And I’m quick to pay my bills that insurance doesn’t cover.
I thought I’d found someone who might have a different approach to my problems, but he doesn’t. During my one and only visit, this week, he read my chart and decided, without even getting to know me, that yes, my problem is anxiety. He also had a bad attitude. He pointed out to me that I am old and I’m going to die. I know I’m old and going to die, but in the meantime, is it too much to want to make my life as easy and enjoyable as possible? I know I’ll not be comfortable with this new doctor at all.
So that’s my dilemma. I’m worn out with the search. Should I keep trying? Or just give up and wait to die? It’s not my nature to give up, but when does one reach the breaking point?